 adamc says: Great advice. love this-- great post. Oh, you guys are becoming more likeable by the minute  6. Be yourself / Be honest 7. Don't make others live by your expectations of who they should be. 8. Respect other peoples ideas and traditions 9. Bathe 10. Talk softly I find people who have no interest in being deemed likable to be the most likable, and persons who've mastered the study and contrivances--Bill Clinton is a good example--to be the least. brilliant advice. is it really that simple? I don't need to try any harder, don't ye know! (But I'll make a note anyway!)  These tips, which (besides tip 4, where the use of 'prejudice' would've been better than 'judgment') are in essence great ones. Only a pity that they're here being misused for a distasteful eagerness to be liked. If you'd ever accidentally become popular, it better be because you haven't consciously strived for it, but because people happen to like the person you've become, with the sole purpose of 'being' instead of chasing other people's approval. The approval of others simply relies too much on the emotional state of those others, and the requirements for being liked can change by the day, and are not within your control. These people will be the sculptors of the sculpture that you will... Your daddie would be proud. The key is to do it all genuinely, without falseness. Sadly for those who are simply following these guidelines (and not "living" them) many of us can see through the farce and we have less respect for them than we would for someone who is genuinely less "nice". I love this clip, keep them comming good ideas, in theory. but i need tips on applying the tips. like how to be positive when everything sux0rz, or how to control my insecurities when even the most delightful pharmaceutical combinations cannot? I love positive advice like this! Often when actually applying stuff like this, there's phases involved: a period of self-doubt, especially if things've gone badly lately, is expected. It's like how a real expert *knows* they're one, they don't often say "I'm an expert". Same with likeable people, they don't have to proclaim "I'm adored!" altho some comedians do it, self-deprecatingly. @cylons: I don't think everything sux0rz. For one, you're on here posting, so that's +1 — you have access to advanced technology which a lot of poor people in the world don't! Try this, Cylons I hate likeable people. being likeable does not mean you are a nice person. George W bush was liked by enough NICE Americans to vote him into office. He has since taken his AND other nations to war for his own ill gotten gains. He has stripped the american people of their freedoms and called it The War Against Terror. What a diamond he is (not) I have never met a human being who didn't want to be liked. Only people suffering from a schizoid or anti-social personality disorder are exempt. Let's cut the crap. The desire to be loved, liked, respected, heard and acknowledged is inherent in ALL all of us, save for some of the mentally ill. This need is the very foundation upon which society is built. Our greatest fears, other than death, is our abject terror of rejection and criticism. Coupled to this are two sides to our nature - we are Januses - we ALL have two sides - some more pronounced than others. And likeability is choosing to present the better part of oneself.. I see no crime in that. God knows, it greases the unplal... PS/ I have noticed that the people who give the appearance of being 'above' this need are actually those most in need. You know the deeper the need, the bigger the bluster - it's a decoy to hide vulnerability. That's true, I think. Everyone wants to be liked. But being "likeable" may not be the best way to be liked, honestly. This clip has a kind of Polonius-like style, to me anyhow. |
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